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It turns into a negative pursue / withdrawal relationship cycle that just keeps spiraling down. But your partner may feel like nothing is ever enough, and that they are not emotionally safe with you. If you have trust issues it feels like you’re always asking for reassurance that you’re emotionally safe. Unfortunately, the constant cycle of worry – requests for information / reassurance – temporary soothing – more worry is exhausting for your partner’s emotional health too. Even if, in the moment, the explanation or reassurance helps, it’s only a matter of time before you start to worry again. If their partner can explain their whereabouts, or provide reassurance, that additional information might temporarily soothe the anxiety or insecurity, but it’s a trap - it doesn’t resolve the underlying cause of trust issues. For example, a mistrustful person might ask for additional evidence regarding their partner’s whereabouts or what they were doing… but have a hard time believing anything their partner says. This can result in big feelings, and attempts to get more information from your partner (which can wind up feeling to them like they’re being accused of something they didn’t do). Someone with trust issues will often have feelings of anxiety, worry or doubt about their relationship. You perpetually feel anxiety or insecurity about your relationship.You are extra-vigilant for any signs of lying, cheating, and concealing.You often question if your partner is trustworthy or is telling the truth.You doubt your partner despite the absence of betrayal.You’ve been hurt or betrayed by people in the past.These are the signs you should watch out for to recognize whether or not you have some trust issues to work on: Having these types of trust issues are also really common.

Trust issues how to#

Learning how to deal with trust issues and insecurities in a relationship in which nothing bad has happened is challenging. I will talk about feeling mistrustful or not feeling safe in a relationship even if nothing terrible has happened. There’s a distinction between broken trust and the trust issues I’m going to talk about today. Please check out “ Sorry’s just not good enough: How to repair trust,” and “ Repairing Trust After Infidelity” for more on this topic. (As evidenced by past experiences.) Repairing trust in a relationship is an entirely different thing than having “trust issues” that you carry around with you. However, having doubts in a relationship where trust has been broken is not an “issue.” It’s a normal, healthy response to be suspicious of someone who may not be trustworthy. This a reasonable assumption: many people wouldn’t trust someone after they’ve been betrayed and their trust has been damaged. You might think that people have “trust issues” related to a partner who has betrayed them in the past. When you figure out who is emotionally safe for you (and who isn’t) and then act accordingly, you are helping your own personal growth to develop.

Part of having healthy boundaries is practicing discernment. It takes a long time to get to know people, and not all people are trustworthy.

Having “trust issues” can be a good thing. Music Credits: Monk Turner + Fascinoma, “Trust (Is Just A Word)” How to Deal with Trust Issues The Love, Happiness & Success Podcast with Dr.